When Ahithophel realized that his advice had not been followed, he saddled his donkey and set out for his house in his hometown. He set his affairs in order and hanged himself. So he died and was buried in his father’s tomb. – 2 Samuel 17:23
Ahithophel, grandfather of Bathsheba and counselor to King David, was considered the greatest advisor in all the kingdom of Israel. However, when his advice was ignored by Absalom (David’s son) and Abishai’s was not, Ahithophel despaired to the point that he took his own life. Certainly there was more at work in this man’s heart that would bring him to his final decision, but for some reason Absalom’s rejection was the instigating factor.
In my experience as a pastor or leader, my counsel hasn’t always been accepted by the members of the congregations or organizations I served. Perhaps, even your own good advice has been rejected by a friend or family member. What should you do when others just won’t listen? Well, certainly don’t despair like Ahithophel!
First, be sure that your counsel or advice is from God. If it is (biblically wise), then rest in the assurance that God always accomplishes His goals in the lives of men and women and uses everything (even the rejection of wise counsel) to see that these goals are fulfilled. Second, keep offering God’s wisdom and counsel; few do so and the world needs it, whether it wants it or not.
Give me a candle and a Bible, and shut me up in a dark dungeon, and I will tell you what the whole world is doing. – Unknown