But they answered, “Should he have treated our sister like a prostitute?” – Genesis 34:31
Have you ever been “wronged?” Why did you see what happened as an offense?
In revenge for the rape of their sister, Dinah’s brothers deceived and ultimately murdered the men of Sichem, making me wonder, “Were the sons of Israel angry because their sister was assaulted or because the act injured their pride?” Look at their response when Israel (their father, Jacob) confronted them. They didn’t call Dinah by name, but instead referred to her as “our sister.” Of course, I don’t really have an answer to my own question, but it does raise some issues.
Without a doubt, the crime against Dinah was horrible and deserved to be punished, but the anger of the sons does not seem to be about her. “Righteous” anger can never concern an offense to individual pride and while it is just to punish crime … and for all evil to be overcome … anger is only justified when the offense concerns God. Their anger in this instance seemed to be more personal (and upheld by later manifestations of pride with Joseph).
Pride escalates our anger and while anger is a natural response to an unjust offense, vengeance should always rest with God.